[instiz] PARENTS REACTIONS TO THEIR SON DEBUTING AS AN AV ACTOR

– So my mom started crying… She asked “Why do you need to do this kind of job?”

– She raised me as her precious son, and she created an environment where I can study as well. And my mom… Believed in me 

– She believed that some day, I’ll be able to live a life worth living, so she was supportive of everything I wanted to do 

– Still… She couldn’t accept the fact that I became an AV actor. She wanted me to stop and she said she couldn’t allow me to do 

– However, despite my parents telling me to stop doing what I was doing back then, I couldn’t 

– It’s been 2 years since I’ve already started being an AV actor 

– My parents aren’t really open-minded and… They also think that it’s a dangerous job… And that there might be Yakuzas involved.. 

– They thought drugs might be involved

– They wondered if I was forced into this type of work out of weakness

– My parents were worried about several things

– But I told them, this isn’t the case. I continued working with the feeling that I was rebelling against my parents. Still, the connection with my parents wasn’t completely cut off.

– My dad hasn’t been talking to me for a while, but my mom… 

– She said “whatever, as long as you take care of your health”

– It’s been 10 years and now I’ve turned 30, I decided I have to get married. I’m going to marry a commoner woman… It’s not an AV actress. I was about to get married… But… Her parents asked me to stop doing the work I was doing and they would be fine with the marriage… 

– I consulted my mom about it, and of course she got angry with me

– She said “you don’t stop when your own parents ask you to stop, but you’re planning to stop when someone else’s parents ask you to stop. Do you not take pride in your work at all?”

1. No but why? Just why does he live like that?

2. He’ll never be able to enjoy ‘ordinary’ happiness unless he quits that job 

3. It’s easy to talk when it’s someone else’s business, but if it were happening to you, you’d never tolerate it. If my child’s spouse were doing something like that? Is there really any parent who would accept it? I certainly wouldn’t tolerate it if it were my own child

4. ㅠㅠ I can totally understand this situation… I feel like you could just quit now and find a job that allows you to hold your head high in front of everyone

5. I don’t think anyone could wrap their head around that; after raising a child with such care, who would look favorably on them ending up in a line of work like that? Honestly, it’s impressive enough that the parents stopped where they did, they didn’t cut ties, they didn’t resort to violence, and they didn’t kick the child out. He really ought to consider getting a respectable job now… If he just keeps doing what he’s doing, even if he enjoys it, he won’t be able to get married, his relationship with his parents will turn icy, and he won’t be able to hold his head up high anywhere; there doesn’t seem to be a single upside to it

6. It’s surprising that the other party’s parents told him to quit. I wonder if the pay was good?

7. Imagine raising your daughter with such care just for her to end up with an AV actor. I’d be devastated

8. It makes sense, since underground culture in Japan can never really break into the mainstream

9. I raised my child with such care and devotion, but if they ended up in a job like that… I don’t think I’d ever have a moment’s peace of mind

10. Of course it’s absurd. He’s working as a s** worker, but he’s calling that a “career” and refuses to listen to his own parents no matter what, yet he wavers the moment the future in-laws speak up? It’s ridiculous